When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.He is mostly right except that there is one (and only one) relationship that does fulfill us. That relationship is with Christ Jesus.
Interestingly, until we find the complete fulfillment that comes through Christ, we can also delude ourselves in more than partnership relationships. We can practice "series polygamy" in terms of our employment, our friendships, good works, and even our involvement in spiritual communities.
Although we have no money, we are to come to Him to buy food and drink which truly satisfy (Is 55) and in doing so, we are more than satisfied, we are restored!
Here I am reminded of John Wimber's Spirit Song.
O let the Son of God enfold You
With His Spirit and His love
Let Him fill your heart and satisfy your soul
O let Him have those things that hold You
And His Spirit like a dove
Will descend upon your life
And make you whole
Jesus, O Jesus, come and fill Your Lambs
Jesus, O Jesus, come and fill Your Lambs.
O come and sing this song with gladness
As your hearts are filled with joy
Lift your hands in sweet surrender
To His name
O give Him all your tears and sadness
Give Him all your years of pain
And you'll enter into life
In Jesus' name