love and junk

[The] gift of love is not about "learning to love more" or "learning to love better." In God's world, receiving love comes before giving love. We learn how to love only when we first learn how to receive the love of God and others. "We love because he first loved us." ... Until I learned how to be loved, my 'loving' just spewed all my junk and debris onto others. ~ Thrall, McNicol, and Lynch, TrueFaced