Father Scott's Ten Rules about Weddings - Advice to couples engaged to be married.
1) This is your wedding. It should be the way you want it to be, within the bounds of Christian marriage, our church's tradition, and the dictates of good taste. Expectations of family and friends are always a secondary consideration.
2) The only things necessary for a wedding in this state are a bride, a groom, a license, and two witnesses. Anything else (dresses, flowers, etc.) is simply ornament and unnecessary for a beautiful and moving wedding ceremony.
3) Relationships are more important than ceremonies. A wedding lasts 15 minutes. A marriage lasts a lifetime. My primary concern is with your relationship with each other, with God, and with me.
4) A wedding is supposed to transform two individuals, not into a couple, but into a church. The only reason for a couple to seek Holy Matrimony in the Christian faith is because they want Jesus Christ to be the Lord, not only of Life, but of their household as well. Christian commitment cannot be realized without a mutual commitment to holiness of life.
5) Couples must worship together to maintain a mutual spiritual foundation. Participating in the life and work of a church makes marriage stronger. Attendance at worship is necessary for the vitality of a relationship both before and after a wedding. Couples who wait until they have children to become active in a church wind up with "kiddie" religion.
6) Weddings should be fun. If you are not enjoying the process of planning your wedding, you are doing something wrong. See me for corrective measures.
7) Something will go wrong at your wedding. Something always does. Count on it, and when it happens, don't let it bother you. It will give you something to talk about for years.
8) Many couples miss their own wedding. The swirl of emotion and excitement tends to obscure a couple's ability to enjoy the wedding. Take great care to
work on calm centering before the ceremony so that you may enjoy it fully.
9) Everyone gets the jitters. But feelings of dread, regret, remorse, or depression may indicate a deeper problem. Problems can be solved! Call me and
talk about it.
10) Alcohol and weddings don't mix. Alcohol has been at the root of every significant problem I have experienced in years of weddings. You may think a
glass of champagne prior to the ceremony is harmless, but alcohol added to the stress of the day can have disastrous results. Abstain.
My personal addition to the list ... have the wedding, reception, whatever-you-feel-you-need-to-have early in the morning and get out of there at a reasonable time. Go enjoy that honeymoon!
Since both of No-blog's children are now married, perhaps they would comment on how well he did relative to instilling these principles
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